Vick had just received a call while we were waiting to board the elevator : two young ladies standing next to each other- one playing roll the ball and the other was on snap chat, then there was this gentleman probably in his mid 50’s busy going through one of the social media platforms which kept him smiling alone and finally there was me busy with daily memes 🙂 – you all understand the thing about memes ,they speak to us, they know no age or status some are just funny and difficult to be ignored… NO!! That is not so important so let me cut the long story short. Hope it will be short and sweet ,if not short then it must be sweet enough to impact somebody out there.
Most of us especially millennials might find it hard to survive without our phones. We have become increasingly dependent to our phones as there functionality has equally increased. Addicted to our phones to the extent that you wish when you die you find a peaceful place in heaven with Wi-Fi and a working charging system. We are all suffering from FOMSI, a fear of missing something important i.e our devices. You can’t even go to the shop without your devices. That is why most of you find yourself using the phones longer than you had planned, sometimes you are out with a friend or you have met new people but you are still busy with your phone. The ”anti-social behaviour” is killing us. We no longer maintain eye contact when conversing since we can’t look up from our phones. Have you ever been to the gym but you are worried about notifications from your phone? If so then you need a smartphone detox. If you are not infected then you are affected.
There are various reason why this smartphone detox is necessary to you or someone around you. The main reason being it cripples our productivity, relationship and health.
Sometime last year I developed a new habit where everyday at night I turn off my data at 9.30 pm after watching news and then 30 minutes later I could switch off my phone, plug it to a charging system away from my bed and then retire to bed. By then I didn’t know I was going through a smartphone detox and I did this just because I felt it was necessary yet as a result I had enough sleep, woke up fresh and had productive days. Sharing is caring, probably- ‘my person’ this is what you need to achieve what your old man told you about not picking calls past 9pm. Just schedule your time, find it unnecessary to pick calls past 9pm. Let them know you would prefer a text message instead. With time most of your contacts will get used to it and what does that mean? No more late night calls. Set those boundaries by creating healthy habits.
All of us would agree its common to have our phones everywhere we go or use them anytime we want but what we don’t know is that the fact that its common it doesn’t make it normal. I have realised people are prisoners of their phones that’s why they are called cell phones. In order to deal with this abnormal situation here is how to deal with your smartphone addiction. We need to smartphone detox.
First of all admit you have a problem. Lets call this the pre-cleansing period where you let your contacts aware that you wont be having your phone around you all the time or as you used to do. And then…
Turn off notifications. It is important to turn off your mobile data, texts and social media notification lets say for an entire day. This will prevent you from going through your phone all the time.
Quit social media. By this I don’t mean deactivating your snapchat, Instagram or Facebook or be it Twitter account, but if you can do why not. All you need to do is delete those apps from your phone. After all there is little important that goes on those platforms unless you are using them as a business marketing platform the likes are not so important. I always do this from time to time and it helps. I have not been ‘gramming’ and doing Facebook in the last 1 month and life has been okay.
Sleep separation. When going to bed ensure your phone is out of reach. This can include charging your phone in another room. Simple.
Go old school. Mlika mwizi kind of phones should be the deal when going out. This will help you to pay attention if you are meeting somebody that you intent to have a deep conversation with. It will also do away with the worry of your phone battery running low since the small phones battery can last for 4 days and is appropriate for outdoors. If you love taking photos then buy a camera for that purpose. Take with you a notebook or sticky notes. Going old school can mean doing verbal communications rather than chatting all the time. Once in a while ask your friend out for coffee have a one-on-one conversion. Give the people in your life the gift of your presence by putting down your mobile device.
Turn your phone off and leave it at home or in the car. I have trained myself that every time I go to church I have to leave my phone at home. So Sundays wont be an ideal day for you to call me especially during morning hours. This is something I am used to and it doesn’t bother me anymore. I have learnt how to deal with the fear of missing out something important during Sundays after all its meant to be a resting day. I respond to texts, calls and emails once am back at home. There is beauty in not responding right away. In case there is a scheduled task that I will need to have my phone in order to complete then I ensure that my smartphone is turned to air-plane mode. For instance I only go online when I want to call someone. Very peaceful Sundays.
7 Day Smartphone Detox Challenge. The 7 day smartphone detox challenge will transform your life. It comes as package of the do’s and don’ts in order to overcome the addiction and runs from Monday to Sunday with each day adapting to a new challenge. You can schedule what I have just shared with you. Also part of it can include not having your phone on the table while eating. If you try all this am sure with time you wont feel the burden of having your phone in the hands all the time.
Think of the benefits. Don’t be a pessimist. Once you have detoxed think of the positive impact the exercise has made to your life. Then Help others.
If you are really thankful what do you do? You share. Don’t hesitate to help a friend or family to fight that addiction by sharing this article with them.